9 Fixed Mindset vs Growth Mindset Examples - What MINDSET Do YOU Have?

 

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Here's some good examples to show the difference between a fixed and growth mindset

What You Believe You Become

What do you believe about your life now? What do you believe about your potential now? If you reflect upon the number of recent tasks, projects, or goals you've begun, how many did you complete? How many from that list did you begin and then set aside, thinking there was not enough time, resources, support, or too many barriers to overcome?

If you have a record of not completing projects or tasks, do you place the responsibility upon yourself, or is it always a matter of external conditions, be it people or something else? These are important questions to consider while you begin to contemplate what it means to accomplish what's important and meaningful in your life. This is especially true for goals. If you have set goals for yourself, it means there is some outcome you hope to achieve, something or some condition you aspire to complete, often resulting in a change within your life.

As you continue your reflection, about task or goal completion, consider something even more important: What did you believe about yourself, and your capability, at the time you established your tasks, projects, and goals? Did you stop to think about whether or not you were capable of achieving what you had planned? Or did you simply establish something you thought would be possible, and begin with a sense of hope? That's usually how goals are formed, perhaps even with a sense of optimism.

The excitement of starting something new may last for a short time period, until the hard work sets in, and it becomes necessary to maintain that initial momentum or excitement. If you didn't have a supportive belief system established, the momentum may quickly fade, and the project or goal may stall. That's when the task switches from being enjoyable, to becoming a monumental chore, and the negative self-talk begins.

What's the missing element? It's the beliefs you hold. If you start out believing you can accomplish anything you decide to do, then maintaining momentum will not be as difficult. The premise is simple: You become what you believe. I'll share with you some ideas for improving your belief system, so that you are better able to start, and work towards completing, your projects and goals.

Why Do Beliefs Matter?

Beliefs matter because you always have thoughts in your mind, and you can choose what your self-talk consists of each day. Now if you have become accustomed to hearing negative self-talk, it will take some practice to change this habit. For example, if you are always criticizing yourself for past mistakes, reminding yourself of past failures, and continually pointing out flaws, then trying to establish positive beliefs is going to be challenging at first. Your working conditions may also reinforce a negative attitude, especially if you have a manager who is always focused on what they perceive to be your flaws, and never noticing your strengths or contributions to the organization.

Yet you are in control of your thoughts, and this is something you can learn to change in time. It is a practiced habit, and like all habits, it can be corrected. It's a matter of finding a new setpoint, or learning to tune out whatever might be harmful to your well-being, and stopping to think about those thoughts that help to lift you up. Everyone has flaws, and everyone has areas of development. However, this does not need to be your focal point at all times. A positive frame of reference is how you become a better person, and how you work on your areas of development. It all has to do with the development of a positive or supportive self-belief system.

Developing a Positive Self-Belief System

There are strategies I've developed over time, and shared with my students, that I recommend for you as well. These methods will help you learn to better tune into those thoughts that support you, and your efforts to develop new goals, projects, and tasks, and sustain those efforts, even during times when the work becomes challenging. I use the acronym BELIEF.

Become Your Own Sponsor: You must rely upon yourself to be supportive, even when there are times that you feel challenged by your goals, life, work, or anything else that comes along. If you begin to think negative thoughts, then you are going to view your entire life in this manner, and you are not going to be able to respond in a way that is beneficial to you. You think and act best when you self-supportive.

Elevate Yourself: As you learn to become self-supportive, you can elevate yourself by believing in yourself, despite natural doubts and questions. There is no perfect person, and you should never accept that you are expected to be perfect. Who you are is exactly who you are supposed to be, someone who is learning and growing every day. You have a capacity to continue to grow.

Like Who You Are: It is important to your well-being that you like the person you see in the mirror. Your entire disposition will change if you make a conscious decision that who you are is perfectly acceptable, even if you decide there are flaws. The imperfections you hold make you perfect. When you like yourself, you are stating that you also believe in yourself. The two go hand-in-hand. You can like yourself without having to ask for anyone's permission. This is your decision, and yours alone.

Intend to Remain Positive: There are going to be days in which you feel down, challenged, and not at your peak. This is all part of life. What you can do is intend to retain your positive disposition, for the sake of maintaining your self-resilience and determination to do your best no matter what conditions may be. This does not mean you are wearing a happy face, rather it means your outlook is hopeful and you are going to find a way to still believe in the best outlook. You will find it easier to get through those challenging days, when you have a positive disposition.

Engage in Beliefs that Challenge You: You may be holding onto existing beliefs that do not serve you well now, as you are thinking about aspects of your life that have not occurred in the manner you hoped it would. If so, this is the time to engage those beliefs, to determine not why they were developed, but to ascertain if you still need to hold onto them. Now that you are thinking about a new method of developing beliefs, it is time to begin to set aside prior beliefs, especially those that do not serve you well. It will take practice, but those old beliefs are likely keeping you stuck in the past.

Forge New Positive Beliefs: If you need help feeling better about yourself, now is the time to forge your new beliefs. You can do this by relating these beliefs to the new goals you've established. For example, if you have a goal related to your well-being, then decide what it will take to reach or attain that goal. Consider potential obstacles or barriers along the way. Then write down beliefs you will need to support the goal as well. Now practice stating those beliefs. You will now be prepared to work on your goal, and have supportive beliefs to guide you.

It's All a Matter of Focus

What you choose to focus upon matters for your well-being. If you have a negative idea, it can be cultivated into a worrisome state of mind. You can also begin with an affirmative idea, allowing it to continue until you feel good. You have an ability to think and feel better. This is the formula for beliefs as well. It's all about thinking and what you focus upon. You are the sum of what you are thinking about in this moment, which means you are the sum of what you believe about yourself. You can train yourself to think the best about yourself, which in turn means you believe the best about yourself. If you want to make changes to your life, start a new goal, or accomplish something you have dreamed of doing, develop a positive disposition and supportive belief system. What you believe about yourself, you will become through the actions you take. You control your life, through the power of your thoughts.

Dr. Bruce A. Johnson is an inspirational author, writer, and educator.

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The Secret to Happy Life

Here is a list of 15 essentials a person should strive to achieve happiness:

1. GOOD HEALTH - First and foremost is GOOD HEALTH. So take care of Physical and Mental Health problems. If you do not enjoy good health you cannot be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct from your happiness and make it harder to be happy. While it's not always possible to "cure" everything, address your physical and emotional needs as best as possible. Some people allow themselves to have lingering pains, or struggles with depression. Take the steps to address it. It will change your entire experience of the world.

2. A HEALTHY BANK BALANCE - Money cannot buy happiness is true and every billionaire is not happy. However, poverty is stressful; and if you can pay for the basics comfortably - it will remove a lot of that stress from your life. You don't have to be wealthy, but some amount of financial comfort will prevent the worries about the basics of everyday life. It need not run into millions but should be enough to provide for creature comforts and something to spare for recreation, like eating out, going to the pictures, travelling or going on holidays on the hills or by the sea. So have a few bucks in the bank. Shortage of money can be demoralizing. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one's own eyes.

3. A HOME OF YOUR OWN - Rented premises can never give you the snug feeling of a nest which is yours for keeps that a home provides; if it has a garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, cultivate a sense of kinship with them. "God is not found on mountain tops. He lives in cozy homes and within you."

4. AN UNDERSTANDING COMPANION - Be it your spouse or a friend. If there are too many misunderstandings, they will rob you of your peace of mind. Don't settle in who you marry. Marriage is the single biggest decision you make, so be picky and marry the right person for you. Don't rush in because you think it's "time" or you feel "pressure." Marry someone you are excited about, who makes you feel amazing, and who is good to you down to their last breath. Don't compromise or settle on this one - it makes a large part of the mood of your home every single day... why not make it great! It is better to be single than to bicker all the time. Choose your friends and people around you carefully - they will have an effect on your mind and soul.

5. LACK OF ENVY - Stop comparing with those who have done better than you in life; risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be very corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others. You will become vain and bitter. Because there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Being happy in your own skin is one of the biggest keys to happiness. A lot of unhappiness comes from people believing that they are "less than" because of images they see or messages they ingest. You can be so much happier going all-in on you.

6. BE OKAY WITH BAD DAYS - Part of living a happy life, is realizing that you won't be happy 24/7, and being fine with it. You'll have times of grief, and times of irritation, and times of stress or anxiety... and that's fine. Accepting that you're a human with a range of emotions, and seeing every day as a new day, is part of what makes you happy. Self-acceptance of just being human and not too hard on you is massive. "Life isn't burger king. You can't always have it your way." "Life is a circle of happiness, sadness, hard times, and good times. If you are going through hard times have faith that good times are on the way. The higher the aim, the more struggles."

7. DO NOT ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE - to descend on you for gossip and bad mouthing about others. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering. Always remember: "Intelligent people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people. And fools argue."

8. CULTIVATE SOME HOBBIES - that can bring you a sense of fulfilment, such as gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Do more things you like! This sounds silly, but there are people who say they used to love painting, but haven't done it in 10 years! Why? Life gets so busy that the first things we cut are sometimes hobbies - we don't see them as "essential" or "important," but they absolutely are when we're talking about happiness. Make time for things you truly enjoy - it makes life more enjoyable. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks or to meet celebrities is temporary fun and waste of time.

9. SEEK OUT THE GOOD - Your mindset and mood are often influenced by what you feed it. This is true of people you surround yourself with, and even the media you ingest. Limit toxic people. Limit toxic headlines/news media, and seek to spend more time/energy with the good. Choose your friends and people around you carefully - they will have an effect on your mind and soul. "A good life is a collection of happy moments. Be happy for this moment this moment is your life."

10. HELP OTHERS - If you want to be happy, there is a lot of joy in helping others. Some of what makes life wonderful is feeling useful, helping another without expecting return, and being reminded of your own good fortune (gratitude)... even if that is driving a friend to a doctor's appointment, or helping a neighbor carry her groceries. Making the world a better place makes you feel better too.

11. LIVE IN THE PRESENT - Today is a new day, and some people have pasts that are incredibly hard. Live in the present, not in the past... or you'll be stuck there and miss the great stuff of today. "Yesterday is a history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift that is why we call it present." Live each day as it was your last. Tomorrow is not promised." "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain."

12. MOVE YOUR BODY - Being able to move your body a bit will keep you happy. There are seniors doing shows where they dance, and young kids running in the yard. You don't have to be an Olympian to move... just even going for a walk every day, or doing some stretches. Your brain has a way of responding to movement that makes people feel happier. "Life is like riding a bicycle, if you don't move you fall."

13. HAVE NEW EXPERIENCES - Doing something new doesn't have to be traveling to a distant land - maybe it's just trying your hand at baking a pie, eating a new type of food you've never had, fixing something around the house you never did before, taking a new route for walk, or visiting a small town nearby you've never been to. New experiences give us things to look forward to, things to talk about, and bring back some of the curiosity of being a child.

14. LOVE IN YOUR LIFE - If you have a person who truly loves you in this world, and accepts you for exactly who you are - it will help contribute to your sense of happiness. Even having a pet that loves you can also help this. Love is powerful, and while it isn't everything, it makes the bad times easier to bear. Being loved, and loving another brings many people great satisfaction and joy.

15. INTROSPECTION - Every morning and evening, devote 15 minutes to INTROSPECTION. In the morning, 10 minutes should be spent on stilling the mind doing meditation and breathing, and then five in listing things you have to do that day. In the evening or before sleeping, 10 minutes to still the mind again, and five to go over what you had undertaken to do.

Here're some quotes for you to enjoy!

"Your career, your spouse, and your children are like a three-legged stool of Happiness. The stronger the legs the better is the stability."

"A good life is a collection of happy moments. Be happy for this moment this moment is your life."

"Our attitude defines life:

Life is best for those, who just want to live it.

Life is difficult for those, who want to analyze it.

Life is worst for those, who want to criticize it."

"One of the greatest blessings in the world is to be able to be happy even when things in life are not going the way we planned."

"Don't wait for the perfect moment, take the moment and make it perfect. And be happy for this moment; this moment is your life."

"Never blame any day in your life. Good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience, and the worst days give you a lesson."

About the Author: Dr. Sukhraj S. Dhillon is an eminent Scientist with numerous research publications in life sciences who studied at Yale University and served as a Professor at University in North Carolina. He has written more than a dozen books on topics of Health, Aging, Vegetarianism, Weight control, Stress-free living, Meditation, Yoga, Power of Now, Spirituality, Soul, God, Science, and Religion. His articles and books are a pointer to his line of thinking including current publication. He has been the President, Chairman of the board, and life-trustee of a non-profit religious organization and has expressed his views in the congregation and at international seminars.

Reference: "Health, Happiness and Longevity" available from popular booksellers throughout the world including Amazon Kindle and Barnes & Noble. https://www.amazon.com/Dr.-Sukhraj-S.-Dhillon/e/B004584DL0?ref_=dbs_p_ebk_r00_abau_000000 http://www.dpcpress.com/pa.html

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Focus On How You CAN, Instead of Can't!

Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. These words, generally, credited, to Henry Ford, succinctly, explain, how significant, one's attitude, and mind - set, is, to becoming, the best, and most significant, one can possibly, be!

When one faces obstacles, does he consider, these, as problems, or challenges, to overcome? If, you, introspectively, think - about, the differing image, between problematic thinking, versus, perceiving something, as an obstacle, while, the former, risks, letting things, control you, and your reaction (or lack of), the latter, usually, leads to focusing, on ways, to overcome any challenges, and proceed, in the best way, possible, towards a personally, viable, valuable solution, etc. When your emphasis/ focus, consistently, considers, how, you CAN, instead of, all the reasons, you can't, your chances, of personal growth, and achievement, become, exponentially, greater! With, that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, what this means and represents, and why it matters.

1. Character; create/ creative; coordinate; caring; consideration; clarity/ clear: One's essential, quality of character, is an important factor, between, proceeding, with the necessary, degree of clarity, and insights, versus, becoming, far - less, than you might be! Personal success, and satisfaction, often is derived, from, the ability and willingness, to create a winning - scenario, rather than, dwelling on the negatives. This personal creativity, helps one coordinate, overcoming one's fears, with caring about becoming the best person, possible! To achieve this, often, requires, optimal consideration, clarity, and being willing, to be clear, and seek a solution! In other words, it makes sense, to give yourself, a check - up, from the neck - up, in order to proceed, in the most productive manner!

2. Assess/ assessment; attitude; aptitude; articulate; actions: Will you be ready, and willing, to assess, the real - you, using a meaningful, personal assessment? Personal achievement comes - from, proceeding, consistently, with a positive, can - do, attitude, and articulating, to yourself, the most - positive message, possible! Aligning this, with well - considered, actions, helps you, put, your best - foot - forward!

3. Needs; negativity; nuances; nerve: Avoid the tendency to take the easier path, which often, creates an atmosphere/ aura, of negativity! Know what makes you happy, and satisfies, address those specific nuances, and proceed, with the nerve, to take, well - considered, timely action, instead of resorting to procrastination!

When things, get, tough, will you take the path, of least - resistance, and choose, to procrastinate, or, the beneficial option, of believing, you CAN succeed! If you want to be your own, best friend, proceed, forward, avoiding, emphasizing, problems, and considering, challenges, to overcome!

Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands, and conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. His company, PLAN2LEAD, LLC has an informative website http://plan2lead.net and Plan2lead canal so be followed on Facebook http://facebook.com/Plan2lead

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The Missing Ingredient to Success

There are many ingredients to success: talent, creativity and insight, hard work, patience and persistence, good luck and synchronicity, the right beliefs and attitude... Did I miss something? Oh yes - spiritual practice.

Of course you can lose weight, become a capable doctor or an excellent lawyer, and be a decent mother or a successful sports player simply by doing (studying, training, working, etc.). But are you going to have satisfaction around your success? How many people do you know that seem to have achieved it all and feel miserable at the same time: exhausted, underappreciated, over-worked, never good enough (despite surface appearances), never quite there, and sometimes even not sure if that's the right thing to do and the right place to be. And then there are also those who seem to be doing all the right things and don't even achieve apparent success, not even in the eyes of the others. Why?

The answer is because dissatisfaction runs together with an overemphasis on the doing. Remember the notorious phrase Be-Do-Have? If you skip the being and jump onto the doing, you never quite end up having (personal satisfaction, successful closure, peace and happiness). You keep doing and no matter what you achieve or produce, you feel you need to do more because... If you however go a step back and focus on the being, you will end up having all that you want and more.

The being step means that you have a spiritual practice around what you do and what you would like to have. That doesn't mean you become superstitious or a religious fanatic. It means you spend time in meditation, introspection, contemplation, appreciation, prayer and gratitude. This way you can activate the higher brain, you can operate from your higher self, and you can receive guidance (through insight and intuition) simply because you feel connected to the resources of the universe and you act out of something larger than you (not because your ego wants to compensate for inferiority complexes or fears lack and separation).

Thus, if you precede the doing with being (in meditation, contemplation, prayer and gratitude), and then take action, your endeavor will be highly successful in the following respects:

1. You will know you are on the right path; you won't have second thoughts and doubts in the process or regrets later.

2. The path will be easy and things will flow (since you will be energetically aligned with the cosmic tides of power); even difficulties will be met with grace.

3. You will have a sense of fulfilment every step of the way; it won't feel like a rut race, constant stress and in the end - no feeling of satisfaction.

In a nutshell, surrounding your projects with some form of spiritual practice guarantees your success and happiness not only on paper but also in your heart.

Vyara Bridgeman is an Advanced Certified BodyTalk practitioner who works with patients from all over the world suffering a variety of physical, mental and emotional conditions. To find out more about Vyara's BodyTalk practice, what her clients say about her, and how she can help you achieve a balanced body-mind, visit: http://www.BodyTalk4Life.com 

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It's Not What Happens That Determines The Quality Of Your Life, But How You Respond To It

Why We Are Attracting The Same Conditions?

Everything that happens in our life reflects our inner state of being. It has to because no two people have the same lesson from their experience. Therefore, it underscores that what we think is externalised in our reality, whether we are conscious of it. Many people struggle with this idea and try to change outside circumstances to coincide with their inner state of being. For example, if we are unhappy being single, we will look for a partner. If the relationship falls short of our expectations, we might end it because it hasn't fulfilled our needs. The same thing happens in other areas of life. We try desperately to change the world outside of us, to make us happy. But this is a recipe for disaster because the key to happiness is to reverse engineer the process.

We must first adjust our thoughts, then we will attract ideal conditions that match our inner vision. 

Can you identify with this? Have you experienced something similar? It's a common situation because we are convinced the only way to attain happiness is to change outside conditions. Unfortunately, we cannot change reality and therefore can only control our inner state of being. Can you recall the child toy you played with called a Shape Sorter, where you had to fit a circle, triangle or square into its corresponding shape? The toy is useful for building children's motor-skill patterns. Some children initially struggle to make a triangle fit into a square hole, but eventually work out the correct block.

I'm proposing we adopt a similar analogy and align our thoughts with our true desires, instead of trying to manipulate reality. Therefore, it's not our circumstances that determine the quality of our life, but how we respond to it. We must find out why we are attracting the same conditions. For example, do you repeatedly attract the same negative experiences? It might be with your finances, health, relationships or career? I know it's frustrating because there was a time I was attracting difficult experiences without knowing why. I was spinning my wheels and couldn't see past my difficulties.

When I stopped trying to change external circumstances and accepted my problems, my life improved enormously. I accepted I was attracting undesirable circumstances and discovered why these patterns kept repeating. I processed my childhood wounds where anger, resentment and shame were operating and sabotaging my happiness. On a conscious level, I knew what I wanted my life to be, but my actions were not conforming to my innermost thoughts. There was a discrepancy in what I wanted and what was materialising in my life. So, I analysed my old beliefs that were creating my difficult experiences and adjusted them to correspond with a new reality.

You Are Not Powerless To Change Your Life

I realise it might seem like a lot of hard work. But what's the rush, if you keep repeating the same patterns and attracting negative circumstances? I surprised when people say: "It was meant to be" because what I'm hearing is resignation and apathy in their words. I'm hearing someone who is not in control of their life and feels powerless to change their circumstances. How we respond to our problems is based on our attitude. Our response is how we claim control over our circumstances, instead of allowing them to defeat us. Life is mirroring our innermost beliefs about reality. When people say life is good or bad, I disagree because life is impartial. It is a concealed mirror reflecting what we hold in our heart and mind.

Are you getting the sense that you have more power than you realise? Can you see by directing your thoughts, you shift your life in a different direction? You don't have to keep recycling the same conditions. I'm assuming since you are reading this article, you are drawn to the message these words convey? I'm assuming you want to make changes, but you are scared or don't know what steps to take? And that's okay. It's okay to be frightened and not know how to get out of your current circumstances; it means you will keep searching for answers. But don't believe for a second you are powerless to change your life. It may seem that way from your current position because you are a focussed on the problem, not the solution.

So, here's an exercise I invite to undertake, if you are serious about overcoming your current challenges. In a recent blog article via his website, researcher and lecturer Dr Joe Dispenza invites us to answer five questions regarding our current challenges. I completed the exercise recently on a current problem and found it valuable to look at my situation from a fresh perspective. Instead of dwelling on the problem, I could see how it was contributing to my personal growth. In fact, I came up with five advantages that the problem was contributing to my life. So, after you finish reading this article, take 10 or 15 minutes and complete the questions. See if you can find the hidden treasure contained within your current problem. Give yourself the gift of responding to your challenges differently. It is only when we step outside the box and see our problems from a new perspective that we will change our life completely.

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A Proper Attitude Can Bring Success!

A Proper Mindset Can Bring Success!

Success begins with attitude. Various attitudes provide different end results. A weak state of mind results in adverse outcomes. A favorable state of mind causes success. While your experience, education, learning, and abilities can matter a great deal, your frame of mind can make all the distinction.

Thankfully, any individual can establish an attitude for success. It's absolutely less complicated and doesn't take as long as grasping a complicated technique!

Produce a way of thinking that develops success! Consider these parts in your attitude:

1. Thankfulness, aka gratitude. Be happy with what you have. Enjoy the success of others. If you cannot rejoice for others when they succeed, your very own success will undoubtedly be restricted.

2. Assessment of danger is an incentive. Competent individuals are masters at reviewing risk as well as benefit. Not so successful individuals either refuse to assess any kind of hazards or handle ways to mitigate the threat for the prospective incentive. Neither is an effective method to move towards a positive, successful life.

3. Concentrate on psychological, [and also] physical health and wellness. Compromising your health and wellness for success isn't a real success. What do you truly obtain if you accomplish your objectives yet compromise your physical or psychological health and wellness at the same time? Know the risks before going after success.

4. Wealth. How much you are worth is not a viable goal in a 'success' mindset. Just look around at people with plenty of money and lots of things, and you'll find most of them worry about losing it, acquiring it, how to hoard it and get more. Wealth is about nurturing contentment in relationships while doing the greater good. It's not taking, it's giving!

5. Embrace your failings! Actually, that's the momentum test of life. Failing is ensured to take place; count on it. Gain and be nurtured in your errors, mistakes, and blunders. Treat them as opportunities for yourself and others around you. Whatever you do, don't play the blame game. If you do that, you've just lost the momentum test in this situation. In weakness, you become stronger.

6. Development. A successful mindset is a healthy appreciation for self-learning; being teachable is a great way to pick up new skills. You cannot attain new ideas without expanding on an old thought in a unique situation. It could come from your abilities, perspective, self-control, or guts that sees that opportunity to develop. If you are presently stuck in a rut, relish it and feel confident; you are feeling the teachable growing pains zone.

7. Determine to be uneasy. Being in a comfort zone is definitely not your friend. Development isn't pleasurable. There will undoubtedly be some pain as you create your own paths, fall short, as well as making errors. Also, success can be unpleasant. Exactly how uneasy are you going to be to come to be effective? The fear of being uneasy is the restricting success aspect for the majority of people.

8. A favorable perspective. I call this a positive mental attitude, but before you can acquire that, you need to be relaxed and smart. So, how you approach the tasks of your day and the mundane things determines your success. If you're grumpy, bored, and aggravated, well, your day is going to be miserable. The other choice is to look at your day as a grand adventure. Each task and its function becomes a nugget of opportunity to be polished and nourished, providing an unimaginable wealth of greater good.

9. Preparation. Success for every individual is a specific objective. You're not likely to strike it on the first go-around or for that matter, several go-arounds. Without a particular plan in mind, preparation, and continually tweaking as you're arriving, you are counting way too much on good luck to sensibly anticipate success.

10. Be your own coach. The prevailing thought is to hire an advisor that has actually accomplished the success you want. There lies the rub. You have a unique idea; it can't be fitted into someone else's application. I cannot imagine the tech founders of the computer era having a coach; I think the computer would have been delayed by decades. Frankly, virtue is in the eye of the beholder. Embrace the challenge, be skillful, decisive, and don't stop nurturing forward.

Consider your existing attitude contrasted to the present outcomes you're experiencing in your life. Can you see an endless loop, or do you see a seamless link?

If you really feel that you have the abilities to be effective, yet still lose, it could be time to have a look at your state of mind. Each individual has a choice in their way of thinking. There are no conditions for having a pleasant state of consciousness; you can simply choose. Put your faith in yourself by choosing to be successful!

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Having a Rough Day?, and be on your way to being kinder to yourself!

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Adversity Builds Strength

There is an old expression that states: "Experience is what you wish was happening to the other guy!". None of us like to go through difficult times.

Everyone states they want to enjoy good health but really don't want to invest the time and energy needed to embrace it. Finding the motivation to exercise can be an ongoing battle. We know that going to a gym or taking a long walk when we have been sedentary, will cause sore muscles! Learning to cook and planning menus will provide good, nutritious meals that actually are less expensive than eating out or ordering food in, but we need to commit to this.

Building good financial health also requires sacrifice and consistency over time. We cannot ignore bills or spend money on wants when there are needs that are being neglected. The formula for wealth is simple. Earn more than you spend! That might mean longer hours at your job or taking on a second job.

Communication is one of the most difficult struggles in relationships. People don't always say what they mean or say it in a manner than clearly states what they intended. Personal and business issues often occur because of difficult communications between people. Words that are fired with emotion can become abuse. Statements that are not thought through before being delivered can cause hurt for years to come.

Personal trauma often occurs without notice. One might have a serious accident, lose a loved one, or be victim to a tragedy such as fire or violence.

World events can also cause an adversity for which we have less control. Besides two world wars, we have experienced traumatic weather disturbances, pandemics and economic disasters. At times, unemployment has been rampant and fear for the future has dominated thoughts.

This year, 2020, has threatened the health and security of individuals on every continent. The risks associated with COVID-19 and lack of vaccine to combat it has led to a lot of worry and confusion. Unfortunately, we have been receiving mixed messages about how to protect ourselves and others.

Author Scott Peck began his book "The Road Less Travelled" with the words "Life is difficult".

His theme is accurate; however, it is not negative. In fact, Peck argues that once we truly understand and accept this truth, we can transcend.

We will always be disappointed if we assume that life is supposed to be easy and think that we are entitled to have all our goals and dreams met. When that is the case, we can easily become "victims". When things don't go the way we want them to, other people are assumed to be "the enemy" even when they aren't.

On the other hand, the people who have a good attitude and do their best without blaming others for their situation are generally the most content and healthy. They view problems as challenges and accept the fact that it is up to them to navigate life.

Think of some of the challenges you have overcome in the past. Did they help you to grow and mature? Are you proud of the way that you came through the troubles?

Life is difficult - for everyone! But no matter what has happened to you, remember that you do have control over how you navigate through it and whether you do it with wisdom, dignity and grace.

Also, remember, other people are watching you. Are you a good example who will encourage and inspire them as they struggle through their own situation?

Your actions and attitude will give them hope that good things can come from bad times.

Just like going to the gym builds muscles, going through difficulties builds maturity and character.

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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Components Of Your Self - IMAGE

You are what you think. How many times have you heard this advice, pondered what it means, and taken the time, and made the effort, to fully consider, how you might enhance your self - IMAGE, in order to enjoy a happier, more, personally fulfilling existence? However, before you can do so, effectively, it is important to understand some of the key components, which create this entity, and discover, the best possible approach, you can use, to feel better about yourself, and your life! With that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, using the mnemonic approach, what this means and represents, and how you might use these insights, in your best interests.

1. Introspective; integrity; ideals; ideas; insights: The logical, first - step, is to take the time, and make a concerted effort, to be, truly introspective, giving yourself a check - up, from the neck - up. What do you really want, and why? Maintain your personal integrity, during this process, because, lying to yourself, serves little benefit! Are your ideals, aligned with quality ideas, which might bring your insights, to reality/ fruition, and make you feel better, about yourself?

2. Motivating; meaningful; make mark: It's essential, to do all you can, to make your mark, for the better! What actions, results, and enhancements, might be, the most, personally motivating? Shouldn't this process, be, all about, truly, meaningful improvements, and enhancements, in your overall existence?

3. Attitude; aptitude; attention; action: Will you proceed, with a well - considered, positive, can - do, attitude? Are you ready, willing, and able to commit, to enhancing, in a relevant way, your personal aptitude, and skill - set, so you might pay keen attention, to the most important actions, you must take?

4. Growth; greater: Most of us, feel better, about ourselves, when, we consistently, undergo, meaningful, personal growth, which, both, actually, improves us, and we perceive, to do so! When your self - image, improves, you will begin to envision, a greater - you, and begin to act, in a more confident, efficient way!

5. Ego; excellence; efforts: Differentiate between, mere, ego, and genuine, self - confidence, and personal pride! Will you pursue, true excellence, instead of simply, taking the path of least resistance? How will you funnel, your efforts, so you become satisfied, in your personal value, and true, self - worth?

One's self - IMAGE, often, largely, determines his existence, and feeling of personal satisfaction, and achievement! Will you commit to doing, all you can, to become the best, you can be?

Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands, and conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. His company, PLAN2LEAD, LLC has an informative website http://plan2lead.net and Plan2lead can also be followed on Facebook http://facebook.com/Plan2lead

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Rewrite Your Story for 2020 | Jack Canfield

 

https://youtu.be/aWeSOPEKExE

Here's some inspiring words from Jack Canfield

This Is How Powerful Your Words Are - Be Careful What You Speak Into Your Life

 

https://youtu.be/MlDnhQl1VEQ

Here's some inspirational advice from Fearless Soul

How to Use the A to Z in the Pursuit of Being Happy

Do find yourself caught in a vicious cycle of a lack of satisfaction, at time a sense of helplessness, hopelessness and worthlessness?

Do you at time feel anxious, worries and depressed of not being good enough?

You can change all of that by thinking and acting out some of these awesome ideas. Here are 26 simple ideas arranged alphabetically from A to Z in the pursuit of discovering happiness. When practiced with gratitude and hope, overtime you would be on the path of exploring happiness from within.

Avoid Negative & Respond Positively - As you get into the habit of ignoring the negative, you will have more time to focus on the positive.

Breaking Old Habits by Forming New Habits - Rather than focus on breaking "old" or "bad" habits, one should put more energy into creating new habits and practices that are beneficial as well as nourishing.

Choose friends wisely - If one wishes to be truly happy, it is best to choose to associate yourself with those that encourage and support you.

Dare to Dream - Live the Life That You Want. Keep the motivation to live your dream by focusing on the positives in your life.

Enthusiasm is Vital - By being passionate, grateful, positive, proud, creative, proactive, reasonable, patient, enlightened, and evolving, you will be able to accumulate an incredible amount of enthusiasm in your personal life.

Family and Friends are forever - Be grateful to those that have helped you get to where you are today as well as who you have become.

Giving and Receiving - There is always a time to give and a time to receive. While giving to those that we care about is a way of expressing our feelings towards them, it is also highly important to honor one's own needs and desires as well.

Happiness within us - By accepting who you are as well as letting go of your expectations, inner struggles and frustrations, you will be well on your way to finding personal happiness and inner peace.

Inspire Yourself & Inspire Others to Be Their Best - By being true to yourself, sticking with what you love, expressing your enthusiasm, and excelling at what you do best, you will find yourself surrounded by those you influence.

Just do it - Accomplish What You First Set Out To Do. Set small goals for yourself and take one step at a time.

Keep on moving - Get It Together & Never Give Up. One of the most important skills that an individual can have is perseverance.

Love Yourself and Be Loved in Return - Celebrate your past, indulge in your desires, let go of your mistakes, and embrace your future.

Make Things Happen for Yourself - You are responsible for what happens in your life and it is up to you to take the first step.

No to procrastination - Stop Thinking. Start Doing. Important to plan accordingly and take small steps towards completing your goal

Opportunity is Everywhere - Make Your Own Future. Recognizing an opportunity is the first step towards success.

Practice Makes Perfect - Although it may not always be an enjoyable experience, deliberate practice makes perfect.

"Quitters Never Win and Winners Never Quit" - Before you even think about quitting, you must ask yourself a few questions. Have you put enough effort and time towards completing your goal? Have you done everything possible to complete your goal? Set a goal for yourself as well as take steps in order to achieve that goal.

Reach Your Target - Time is your most precious asset when it comes to goal setting so be sure to plan accordingly; make your time frame for completing that goal realistic.

Smile From the Heart - By being in close proximity to individuals that are more positive than others, the exposure to positive energy and bright smiles will be most certainly contagious.

Take Chances to Live a Better Life - Take your chances today; go after your dream job, escape from your toxic relationships and strive for what you really desire in life!

Understand & Respect Others Around You - By being able to understand what others need, we will better understand others and work towards being at peace with one another.

Value adding - As you begin to take those steps to contribute to those around you, you will certainly notice how it makes you feel about yourself.

Willing to reach your goals - Always strive for what you want in life, fight for what you truly want and stay positive, regardless of what obstacles life may throw at you.

X-(ac)celerating in Life and Moving Forward - Driven individuals are continuously striving to do at least one key task better and by doing so, you may have a history of doing what you do very well.

You make a Positive Change Every Single Day - You have the power to control your attitude, how to behave, what to say and when to say it. Use this power to your advantage and make a difference in your life today.

Zero In & Focus on What is Most Important - Important to know when to stop and focus on what is most significant.

Santhanaram Jayaram is a Business Communication Coach & speaker with an MBA in International Business who strongly believes in his mission of H.O.P.E, Helping Other People Effectively. Author of "Ram Up Your Laughter"

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A Professional Member at the Asia Professional Speakers Singapore.

Ram is a Certified Laughter Yoga Teacher and appeared in National TV, Radio and Print.

Ram is a Master Neuro-Linguistic Psychology (MNLP) Practitioner, as awarded by the American Board of Neuro-Linguistic Psychology. Ram has also qualified for the Million Dollar Round Table in 2005, 2006 & 2007.

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STOP NEGATIVE SELF TALK - Listen To This Everyday - Steve Harvey

 

Here's some great advice from Steve Harvey

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWDo-y-tK7k

How Incredibly Successful People THINK - Brendon Burchard

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0LfM9ZPGmVY

Here's some great advice from Brendon Burchard

When Things Look Bleak, Live Your Life One Day At A Time

Slow Down And Reassess Your Priorities 

How are you coping at the moment? What are your chief concerns? How are you dealing with it? Even though we're living in tenuous times, it is important we check in with ourselves regularly. People cope in different ways, some better in stressful conditions, while others internalise their stress. We ought to deal with what is affecting us, instead of repeating the patterns of the past. Whist the pandemic may appear bleak at the moment, it doesn't mean it will be permanent. Mankind has faced many challenges throughout history. 

Regrettably, many people will succumb to the virus and their families and friends will be affected. It is tragic when people lose their lives to a disease beyond their control. But we mustn't live in a constant state of fear because what we dwell upon may come to pass. We should focus on taking the smallest step to secure our dreams and best future. Life will improve, there are no two ways about it. We have experienced these challenges before and will overcome them again. 

In times like this, our attitude determines our altitude; how high we soar above our challenges. It is how we respond in times of crisis that determines whether we stay stuck or look for positive solutions. Man's greatest discoveries were made during some of the darkest periods in human history. Mankind is resilient and can overcome any of life's challenges, with the right mindset and attitude. Knowing this, what actions could you take to deal with your worries? Does it involve giving attention to your mental, emotional and physical well-being? Perhaps it requires less interaction with social media and the news, or reaching out to friends and loved ones more often? 

When we take each day as it comes, we become present to the moment, rather than hope for a future that may not arrive as we expect. I'm getting the sense that this pandemic is teaching us to slow down and reassess our priorities. It is inviting us to place value on the importance of family, friendships, purpose and living in the present moment. Being grounded in the now helps us anchor ourselves to our present moment experience. It reduces the stress of living in the future, and we become grateful for each moment we're alive. So, when things look bleak, we ought to live one day at a time and savour what we have. 

Live Each Day As Though It Were A Precious Gift

Does it make sense that scurrying from day to-day does little to bring you peace of mind? It only compounds to the stress experienced before the pandemic. In a recent video blog titled: Although The World May Never Be The Same, You Can Still Find A New Normal, I outline five ways to find a new normal going forward. I explain that we are being invited to create a new paradigm for our future, rather than bring the old with us. This will mean letting go of how the future should be and allow life to fill us with: peace, harmony, cooperation and togetherness. We ought to think differently about how we live, otherwise we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes. As you know, this pandemic has ruined many lives and businesses, not to mention the financial burden on world economies. 

So, let's hunker down and learn the lessons instead of blaming others for the way things are. Yes, we're all in this together because our choices impact others. For example, not wearing a face mask in public can have a devastating effect on thousands of people. This is an opportunity to look into ourselves and examine our motives, to see whether they are aligned with a new world being ushered in. So, what are you giving your attention to right now? What do you hope to create going forward? What do you want to see in the months and years ahead? Begin where you are now and live each day as though it were a precious gift, instead of lamenting how things should return to normal. The normal we once knew wasn't working, so life is giving us the opportunity to write a new script. 

Savour every moment because life has a way of turning at the drop of a hat. Take inventory of your life, no matter your age and decide what you'd like the world to look like. Your actions have a ripple effect, in ways you can never imagine. Act locally but think globally, goes the saying. So, after you finish reading this article, go back to the questions at the beginning and answer them as best you can. Check in with yourself regularly and optimise your mental and emotional well-being. After all, when things look bleak, living one day at a time opens you to infinite opportunities that you may not have seen before. 

Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? If so, download your FREE copy of my eBook NAVIGATE LIFE right now, and start your amazing journey of greatness today! 

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