Focus On How You CAN, Instead of Can't!

Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. These words, generally, credited, to Henry Ford, succinctly, explain, how significant, one's attitude, and mind - set, is, to becoming, the best, and most significant, one can possibly, be!

When one faces obstacles, does he consider, these, as problems, or challenges, to overcome? If, you, introspectively, think - about, the differing image, between problematic thinking, versus, perceiving something, as an obstacle, while, the former, risks, letting things, control you, and your reaction (or lack of), the latter, usually, leads to focusing, on ways, to overcome any challenges, and proceed, in the best way, possible, towards a personally, viable, valuable solution, etc. When your emphasis/ focus, consistently, considers, how, you CAN, instead of, all the reasons, you can't, your chances, of personal growth, and achievement, become, exponentially, greater! With, that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, what this means and represents, and why it matters.

1. Character; create/ creative; coordinate; caring; consideration; clarity/ clear: One's essential, quality of character, is an important factor, between, proceeding, with the necessary, degree of clarity, and insights, versus, becoming, far - less, than you might be! Personal success, and satisfaction, often is derived, from, the ability and willingness, to create a winning - scenario, rather than, dwelling on the negatives. This personal creativity, helps one coordinate, overcoming one's fears, with caring about becoming the best person, possible! To achieve this, often, requires, optimal consideration, clarity, and being willing, to be clear, and seek a solution! In other words, it makes sense, to give yourself, a check - up, from the neck - up, in order to proceed, in the most productive manner!

2. Assess/ assessment; attitude; aptitude; articulate; actions: Will you be ready, and willing, to assess, the real - you, using a meaningful, personal assessment? Personal achievement comes - from, proceeding, consistently, with a positive, can - do, attitude, and articulating, to yourself, the most - positive message, possible! Aligning this, with well - considered, actions, helps you, put, your best - foot - forward!

3. Needs; negativity; nuances; nerve: Avoid the tendency to take the easier path, which often, creates an atmosphere/ aura, of negativity! Know what makes you happy, and satisfies, address those specific nuances, and proceed, with the nerve, to take, well - considered, timely action, instead of resorting to procrastination!

When things, get, tough, will you take the path, of least - resistance, and choose, to procrastinate, or, the beneficial option, of believing, you CAN succeed! If you want to be your own, best friend, proceed, forward, avoiding, emphasizing, problems, and considering, challenges, to overcome!

Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands, and conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. His company, PLAN2LEAD, LLC has an informative website http://plan2lead.net and Plan2lead canal so be followed on Facebook http://facebook.com/Plan2lead

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It's Not What Happens That Determines The Quality Of Your Life, But How You Respond To It

Why We Are Attracting The Same Conditions?

Everything that happens in our life reflects our inner state of being. It has to because no two people have the same lesson from their experience. Therefore, it underscores that what we think is externalised in our reality, whether we are conscious of it. Many people struggle with this idea and try to change outside circumstances to coincide with their inner state of being. For example, if we are unhappy being single, we will look for a partner. If the relationship falls short of our expectations, we might end it because it hasn't fulfilled our needs. The same thing happens in other areas of life. We try desperately to change the world outside of us, to make us happy. But this is a recipe for disaster because the key to happiness is to reverse engineer the process.

We must first adjust our thoughts, then we will attract ideal conditions that match our inner vision. 

Can you identify with this? Have you experienced something similar? It's a common situation because we are convinced the only way to attain happiness is to change outside conditions. Unfortunately, we cannot change reality and therefore can only control our inner state of being. Can you recall the child toy you played with called a Shape Sorter, where you had to fit a circle, triangle or square into its corresponding shape? The toy is useful for building children's motor-skill patterns. Some children initially struggle to make a triangle fit into a square hole, but eventually work out the correct block.

I'm proposing we adopt a similar analogy and align our thoughts with our true desires, instead of trying to manipulate reality. Therefore, it's not our circumstances that determine the quality of our life, but how we respond to it. We must find out why we are attracting the same conditions. For example, do you repeatedly attract the same negative experiences? It might be with your finances, health, relationships or career? I know it's frustrating because there was a time I was attracting difficult experiences without knowing why. I was spinning my wheels and couldn't see past my difficulties.

When I stopped trying to change external circumstances and accepted my problems, my life improved enormously. I accepted I was attracting undesirable circumstances and discovered why these patterns kept repeating. I processed my childhood wounds where anger, resentment and shame were operating and sabotaging my happiness. On a conscious level, I knew what I wanted my life to be, but my actions were not conforming to my innermost thoughts. There was a discrepancy in what I wanted and what was materialising in my life. So, I analysed my old beliefs that were creating my difficult experiences and adjusted them to correspond with a new reality.

You Are Not Powerless To Change Your Life

I realise it might seem like a lot of hard work. But what's the rush, if you keep repeating the same patterns and attracting negative circumstances? I surprised when people say: "It was meant to be" because what I'm hearing is resignation and apathy in their words. I'm hearing someone who is not in control of their life and feels powerless to change their circumstances. How we respond to our problems is based on our attitude. Our response is how we claim control over our circumstances, instead of allowing them to defeat us. Life is mirroring our innermost beliefs about reality. When people say life is good or bad, I disagree because life is impartial. It is a concealed mirror reflecting what we hold in our heart and mind.

Are you getting the sense that you have more power than you realise? Can you see by directing your thoughts, you shift your life in a different direction? You don't have to keep recycling the same conditions. I'm assuming since you are reading this article, you are drawn to the message these words convey? I'm assuming you want to make changes, but you are scared or don't know what steps to take? And that's okay. It's okay to be frightened and not know how to get out of your current circumstances; it means you will keep searching for answers. But don't believe for a second you are powerless to change your life. It may seem that way from your current position because you are a focussed on the problem, not the solution.

So, here's an exercise I invite to undertake, if you are serious about overcoming your current challenges. In a recent blog article via his website, researcher and lecturer Dr Joe Dispenza invites us to answer five questions regarding our current challenges. I completed the exercise recently on a current problem and found it valuable to look at my situation from a fresh perspective. Instead of dwelling on the problem, I could see how it was contributing to my personal growth. In fact, I came up with five advantages that the problem was contributing to my life. So, after you finish reading this article, take 10 or 15 minutes and complete the questions. See if you can find the hidden treasure contained within your current problem. Give yourself the gift of responding to your challenges differently. It is only when we step outside the box and see our problems from a new perspective that we will change our life completely.

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Adversity Builds Strength

There is an old expression that states: "Experience is what you wish was happening to the other guy!". None of us like to go through difficult times.

Everyone states they want to enjoy good health but really don't want to invest the time and energy needed to embrace it. Finding the motivation to exercise can be an ongoing battle. We know that going to a gym or taking a long walk when we have been sedentary, will cause sore muscles! Learning to cook and planning menus will provide good, nutritious meals that actually are less expensive than eating out or ordering food in, but we need to commit to this.

Building good financial health also requires sacrifice and consistency over time. We cannot ignore bills or spend money on wants when there are needs that are being neglected. The formula for wealth is simple. Earn more than you spend! That might mean longer hours at your job or taking on a second job.

Communication is one of the most difficult struggles in relationships. People don't always say what they mean or say it in a manner than clearly states what they intended. Personal and business issues often occur because of difficult communications between people. Words that are fired with emotion can become abuse. Statements that are not thought through before being delivered can cause hurt for years to come.

Personal trauma often occurs without notice. One might have a serious accident, lose a loved one, or be victim to a tragedy such as fire or violence.

World events can also cause an adversity for which we have less control. Besides two world wars, we have experienced traumatic weather disturbances, pandemics and economic disasters. At times, unemployment has been rampant and fear for the future has dominated thoughts.

This year, 2020, has threatened the health and security of individuals on every continent. The risks associated with COVID-19 and lack of vaccine to combat it has led to a lot of worry and confusion. Unfortunately, we have been receiving mixed messages about how to protect ourselves and others.

Author Scott Peck began his book "The Road Less Travelled" with the words "Life is difficult".

His theme is accurate; however, it is not negative. In fact, Peck argues that once we truly understand and accept this truth, we can transcend.

We will always be disappointed if we assume that life is supposed to be easy and think that we are entitled to have all our goals and dreams met. When that is the case, we can easily become "victims". When things don't go the way we want them to, other people are assumed to be "the enemy" even when they aren't.

On the other hand, the people who have a good attitude and do their best without blaming others for their situation are generally the most content and healthy. They view problems as challenges and accept the fact that it is up to them to navigate life.

Think of some of the challenges you have overcome in the past. Did they help you to grow and mature? Are you proud of the way that you came through the troubles?

Life is difficult - for everyone! But no matter what has happened to you, remember that you do have control over how you navigate through it and whether you do it with wisdom, dignity and grace.

Also, remember, other people are watching you. Are you a good example who will encourage and inspire them as they struggle through their own situation?

Your actions and attitude will give them hope that good things can come from bad times.

Just like going to the gym builds muscles, going through difficulties builds maturity and character.

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From Dr. Linda Hancock, Registered Psychologist and Registered Social Worker

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Life Is A Battle Against Yourself

Do you feel like you are demotivated? Or you feel like you are not the same person you used to be? You stop spending time with your friends. You feel empty. The emptiness you felt is draining and distracting you from that niggling drive to do nothing. 

Everyone is obsessed with their own problems in life. And now it seems, you're obsessed with yours. You feel guilty and your anger gives way to apathy. You cut them out because you think that they can't hurt you if you don't care about them. 

The hardest battle you will ever face is the war against yourself. You know you can win the battle! However, you kept telling yourself that you can't do it and it's too hard to accomplish. That you are not worthy or not good. You overthink yourself just to have a ton of excuses as to why you can't do things to improve yourself. 

You are the only person standing in the way of yourself. No one else. The key to unlocking that greatness is by becoming your own greatest ally. What you need to do is to accept that you have limitations. Apart from this, turn this fear as your inspiration to strive for more. 

Don't let your fears stop you. Be bold and relentless in attack your fears head-on. Win the battle against yourself and when you win that battle you will grow as a human being and achieve the life you want to have. You deserve so much in this world. You just need to stop letting your own foot get in the way. Again, be strong. It's okay to be afraid sometimes but never let it overpower you. 

To win the battle against yourself, you need to understand what do you want most in your life. Understand that the battle against yourself is the hardest battle. Your mind constantly makes up a mountain of excuses as to why you can't do that thing to keep you where you are. 

Because you are afraid of the change that will come from going after your dream. It doesn't matter whether the change will be good or bad when your ego is afraid to change. 

Do you know that successful people face their fears head-on and overcome them? They aren't afraid of change because they aren't controlled by fear! Unsuccessful people, on the other hand, allow fear to overcome them and hate when anything changes in their lives. 

Change is inevitable and the sooner we realize it, the better we will be. We cannot go after our dreams if we are afraid. It simply won't happen. You will constantly make up excuses as to why you can't do it or why you are not good. 

So, never let your fears stop you from achieving your dreams. You need to be relentless in attacking your fears head-on. That's the time when you can truly be successful, overcoming the battle against yourself!

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